I was probably your typical teenager. I had been going out with my boyfriend Adam for 2 years and for me I knew it was love. That kind of teenager love, more physical than spiritual love. He was the one I knew it from that moment. But the future wasn't a thing I through about much, I lived in the moment for the moment. I had an amazing family, and being the baby I was pampered a lot. My parents also gave me a lot of freedom, having an older brother and sister they had been through this teenage stage twice and had, had little to know problems. So my weekends were spend out at friends, and even strangers parties just having a great time before life really started to happen. I was still going well in school had good relations with my family, friends and Adam. I wasn't much of a drinker, but every now and then I would make up for it when I over indulged and I guess that is where things went wrong. I never went off the rails or turned to drugs as a quick fix for my problems but i had that rebellious stage when all I wanted to do was fit in and be like everyone else and that included seex. I did feel ready at the time, but I had no understanding of the implications having seex would have o my life. It wasn't a drunken mistake; it was a "romantic" way to spend my first time. Little did I know it would turn into a more casual arrangement? It would have only been a couple of weeks after we made the casual arrangement that April began to grow and we didn't even know it yet. Our lives were going to be changed in a huge way! I was only 16 when that little red line changed my life. It was the beginning of Year 11 at school and I was pregnant. My parents were very understanding and supportive; I couldn’t have done it without them. They are really the most open minded and understanding people I have ever met. Adam as well and truly the love of my life and the father of my baby. I was due just before the end of third term at school. It was a horrible place to be, the feeling that everyone is looking at you, watching you and talking about you. The effort to get up and go to school in the mornings became pointless for me. The pregnancy was hard and took its toll on my mind and body. It felt like at first something strange and foreign was growing inside of me, at times I felt sick thinking about it. Adam and I decided to keep the gender a surprise until the very end, and it made that moment all the more special. I turned 17 on August 30 and was about to pop! I still had a little while to go until my due date as well. Early morning on the 4th September 2007 and felt contractions beginning to come on, and a few days before that my doctor had told me I had just slightly began to dilate. The contractions were not terrible at first, but my water broke shortly after and they intensified. I as admitted to hospital at around 8am in the morning having no real idea about the pain and long struggle before me. Adam and my mum were with me the whole time with constant visits from my sister, brother, dad and other close friends and family. All I really wanted was the epidural but I wasn’t dilated enough to have it. Late afternoon I was given the okay for the epidural and it seemed to have an instant effect on me. After that things seemed to move a little faster and by that evening I was told it was time to push. At 8.19pm I held my baby for the first time, it was a little girl, 8lb and 20 inches of perfection. She was given the name April Leigh Ellis and from that moment she was our princess. I bought her home from hospital 4 days later and life had changed so much. I was working on a couple of hours or less of sleep per night and was still trying to keep up to date with my school work which was being sent to me weekly. I wanted to not fall behind because I knew that if I did I would never catch back up. Life slowly got easier with April, I was still doing my school work and wasn’t falling behind. I went back to school when April was 2 months old, which was the beginning of November and my first term as a year 12 student. I went to school for roughly six weeks before the summer holidays came and I was able to have a bit of relaxation in my then stressful life. Going back to school was probably the hardest thing, leaving April and having a constant worry. But also add in the extra work and stress it was a nightmare. I can now say I am a different person to who I was back then, but it really was the next year of my life which changed everything completely.
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